Well, today I am just going to vent. Sorry, but I have to. I don't normally put my entire life out on a blog but today I feel like I have to get my thoughts on paper... or in a blog. Today I found out that my boyfriend of five years with whom I live with has resigned from his job. Normally, this would be OK or tolerable, but not this one.
For the past 3 years my boyfriend has been wanting to become a police officer. Last May he got the unique opportunity to get hired on as a full time police officer and he was also going to be put through the police academy and get paid for it..... this is the sweetest deal. In November 2008 he graduated the academy with flying colors. Everyone in his department LOVED him. Fast forward to today and he has just informed me that he resigned from his job because he isn't happy being a police officer anymore.
Here we go, all the preparation, determination, blood, sweat and tears that went into this very intense past year is GONE. His job allowed us the luxury to move in together, him to buy a car and really start to believe that a future together is finally tangible. I had plans, he had plans, we had financial security.
Now, I have no idea what is going to happen. Nothing to fall back on. I work and go to school, I am holding up my end of the bargain. No I am scared because my financial security has flown out the window, and suddenly that future together that was so tangible is now more distant than it has ever been.
Interesting how life can change with just 6 words, "I just resigned from my job"
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holy jeez that sucks. I can complety see how finding this out the way you did is difficult and a decision like this warent a little comunication to other parties affected, being you. but there is the fact that he realised and realised early that htis is not his passion. The effort over the last year was not wasted but rather and important step to finding his true calling. the fact that he has accomplished something so great and then walk away from it in the interest of quality of life is a good thing to me. Life is sapose to suck now, thats what makes us appreciate the "easy life" later. cheer up!
ReplyDeleteWow, that is a difficult blow. Despite him being unhappy, it sounds like he should have at the very least notified or discussed it with you before he resigned. It doesn't seem as if he thought things through in terms of how this affects your financial security. While it is important to be happy with what you do, one also needs to think about reality. You can explore other career or interest options while keeping your current job. Good luck with things! In the end, everything will work out.
ReplyDeleteOh My God! I am so sorry to hear about this situation; it seems as if you have been together for five years he would have consulted you on this, or talked to you about it first. Maybe a heads up, not just a side note after the deed is done. I’ve worked for the police department and it can be stressful, but they do take people back. Maybe he just needs a break, a sabbatical if you will, and then he will go back. Once a policeman, always a policeman. But with that background he can find good temporary work to keep you two a float for now. I hope he finds what he is looking for and that you are able to keep yourself where you want to be too.
ReplyDeleteI can understand your worry and concern for what you both will do regarding financial security and stability. This can't feel good, especially the way the economy is right now, but everything happens for a reason. I personally think it was a brave thing for him to do, pull himself out from an unhappy situation. Although it does have consequences and this means that it does affect you. I hope he finds his calling and that you two are able to figure out it. Im sure it will all be well and good. Life throws some obstacles at us, but we will overcome. I am sure you two will too!
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